A few weeks ago I attended a two-day event hosted by Zander Fryer and High Impact Coaching, a coaching program/mastermind I’m in. The event was called Impact Accelerator Live.
The folks at HIC put this event on to teach us coaches – noobs and seasoned alike – how to build and scale our businesses. I expected to learn a bunch of biz tactics and strategies, which we did. What I did NOT expect was the spiritually profound experience I had.
I reconnected with my purpose. With my calling. I made some new friends. We meditated. Did some breathwork. We laughed. Cried. I even did my very first COLD PLUNGE!
Now that I’ve had some time to process the whole experience, here are my three biggest takeaways:
1. “It’s not about me. It never was. And it never will be.”
Zander always tells us this, but it hit me differently this time. While it’s important I learn how to make money as a coach (especially because I plan to support my family with this career), I began to lose sight of the real goal: to serve others. I’m here to help. I figured that out a long time ago. But I’ve resisted. Like Jonah in the Old Testament. No more running. No more hiding. I’m here to share the gifts I’ve been given. I’m here to spread the Love.
2. It’s not “either/or” – it’s “both/and.”
For me, this means I can serve both as a coach AND as a musician. I’ve questioned whether I had to choose one or the other. I don’t. The “experts” say you should focus on one thing at a time, and while this makes sense, ultimately it’s up to you. YOU get to choose. Everyone is just making it up as they go anyway. You might as well choose the things that bring you joy. So I choose coaching AND music! In the busyness of coaching and just day-to-day life, I’ve placed music on the back burner. But the music is begging to be played! So play, we shall 🙂
3. “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.”
God and I have been wrestling for a long while now. I’m not religious, but I am deeply spiritual. When I neglect my spiritual side (as I have been in recent months) I feel LOST and I suffer greatly. When I tune back in, I am FOUND and I experience Unconditional Love. At the event, we did an exercise to “Define Your Why.” This is what I wrote…
I lost sight of my why. I started focusing on all the reasons why this would NOT work. Letting my fears and insecurities drive my action (or inaction, rather). And actually… I almost quit. I’m glad I went to IAL. I was reminded that my purpose is to love and serve others… that coaching IS spirituality… that music is too. I’m not perfect. But if I wait until “perfect” to begin serving others, I’ll never start. So it’s back to business. Back to the basics. I’m tuning in to my purpose. I’m helping out however I can. Let’s go!